Most of us don’t wake up and begin our day knowing that we can consciously create our future. We may have been involved in a way of thinking for years, decades and maybe even a lifetime that is nowhere near where they could be. People don’t make moves forward because they don’t believe they can.
On average a person thinks 60 to 70,000 thoughts in one day, and believe it or not, 90% of those thoughts are the same thoughts as the day before.
If you have the same thoughts and make the same choices as the previous day it leads to the same behaviors and experiences. To put this in perspective, you’re basically recreating the same day, day in and day out. If we think about this in terms of our genetic expression, where our genetic expression is equal to how we think or act, or inner personal reality starts to become our external reality. If we want to create something different in our life, we have to start with a new personal reality, this means taking notice of unconscious behaviors and begin to change them.
Get Off The Emotional Rollercoaster
This leads into having and creating everything that you want in life. What would happen if you wield the pain of your divorce into your biggest strength? Maybe you want more love, power, authenticity, impact or just having that feeling of safety… you are the trailblazer of your own life. You have the power to have all of the things that you want. When pain and emotion, instead of focused intention, goes undirected and unmanaged they become what drives you. If instead of focusing on your intentions and allowing for you to create your own life you are focusing on that pain and emotion, you are “getting on and off the emotional rollercoaster.” Even though you may have some parts of your life that have been put back together beautifully and you have a great job, good friends, and a wonderful family, inside is an emotional rollercoaster and it’s robbing you of your future potential.
By riding this emotional rollercoaster, you are not going to get everything you want in life. The key to getting everything you want in life comes with the decision to choose you and your happiness. It’s the decision to take back control over your life. I want you to harness your pain and use that as a catalyst to create your amazing life right now! I’m not talking about 10 years from now, or 8 years from now, I’m talkin about today! You can’t avoid the suffering, but you can choose how you’re going to cope with it and find meaning from it.
I want you to move forward with a renewed purpose because you stepped into finding meaning and purpose in your situation. You’re beginning to look at your future and seeing what’s possible. The most successful women are the ones who turned their setback into their setup. This is not to say they didn’t have to go through their time of grieving and learning how to forgive and trust again, they decided to develop their best self.
Focus On Your Dreams
A lot of women find it helps to move on through a combination of coaching, transformational therapy, energy healing, and eating well. Find out what works best for your body, but the important thing was that they were ready to finally move through it and come out the other end. They chose a new path, much like a butterfly and moved past the caterpillar stage. This stage and what you’re going through is only temporary, and that this too shall pass.
Try to remember that at one point in time you had big dreams for yourself. Dreams filled with hope, promise, and possibility. Now is the time to act on those dreams. Maybe you wanted to start a business, were going to go to college, or break those generational curses. Stay focused and start doing those things right now.
It’s so easy for us to slip back and focus on the problem. The way to getting everything you want in life is understanding that this is temporary. What you focus on, is what you bring about, and when you focus on the problem you’re going to get deeper into that problem. You need to focus on the future and understand that sometimes there’s a higher purpose waiting for you.
Now is the time to honor your own life and what you’ve been given. You have a life that has a purpose and no one can create it but yourself. Develop the self-confidence you have been missing, listen to that inner voice that is trying to tell you where you’re meant to be. You don’t know it yet, but you’re being guided to go and be your best self. What would you do if you knew you were 100% worthy? How you answer that question will connect you to your WHY. When you obsess over your vision, and hold true to that small voice inside is when God starts leading you and inviting others to join you on your journey. If you want to achieve everything you want in your life and suddenly things don’t seem to be going the way you want them to, I want you to ask yourself, “Am I willing?” It’s not about the amount of resources you have or other things that may hold you back, because I have worked with women who have faced obstacles, but they were willing. They wanted to get themselves back on the road to happiness and love.
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If life isn’t turning out the way that you want and you can see yourself falling through the same circles into the same patterns then you need to reprogram your thinking. I want you to remember that in your greatest struggle is when you get to redefine who you are. Become the best person and step into the most authentic version of yourself . You can create a life by your terms and no one else’s.